Mindfulness? Isn't that just a bit trendy and 'pop-sciencey'?

 If you had asked me what my opinions and thoughts were around mindfulness a few years ago I would have come up with a list something along the lines of:

trendy

a bit like yoga without the moving

colouring

emptying the mind

not for me

another passing fad

You get the idea. To be perfectly honest it wasn't something that I had given a huge amount of thought to. It wasn't something that came up in my family or social circles, it wasn't something that was considered to be especially relevant at work. In a nutshell it wasn't something that I thought would be for me.

My work situation changed and I started to consider alternative career paths. After various conversations, I started an introduction to counselling course.  At the same time it was suggested at work that we would devote a big chunk of our allocated CPD time to a mindfulness course. To give a little context to this - the pandemic and subsequent lockdowns had just come to an end (the lockdowns anyway had ended) and awareness of mental health , wellbeing across the world was pretty much at the forefront of everyone's thoughts.

I was feeling fairly uninspired by the idea of having to spend a day followed by a series of after work sessions on mindfulness; I found it hard at this point to see beyond the irony of mindfulness and being at work. However, it was certainly something that sounded more interesting than some of the 57,000 slide presentations that one has to sit through sometimes ( sorry, I am prone to exaggeration at times but you get the idea)

The dates were set. Compassionate mindfulness. Here goes...

My next post will continue the journey. I am not going to get all evangelical about things, that's not my style (not even sure that I have a style!) but it's a journey that I am so happy to have started and three years down the line feel that it's one to keep on exploring and learning from.

A mindful journey

 Do follow my journey into mindfulness; I have been busy these past couple of years starting along this new course and am excited to share this with you. My intention is to update in small steps so keep a check for the beginning of the journey coming very soon.

Nine Perfect Strangers, Liane Moriaty

 I am a HUGE fan of Liane Moriaty's books since first listening to Big Little Lies. In fact I am such a fan that I have told pretty much everyone that I know this fact and recommended her books to all my friends and family ( most of whom also love her stories)

So, when this book came out in 2019 I was eager to read- it made Waterstones book of the month- I could hardly wait to get started. This is what the Waterstones website says:

** One house. Nine strangers. Ten days that will change everything...

The eagerly-anticipated new novel from the worldwide Number One bestselling author behind Emmy- and Golden Globe-winning HBO series Big Little Lies and smash-hit novel The Husband's Secret.

The retreat at health-and-wellness resort Tranquillum House promises total transformation. Nine stressed city dwellers are keen to drop their literal and mental baggage, and absorb the meditative ambience while enjoying their hot stone massages.

Miles from anywhere, without cars or phones, they have no way to reach the outside world. Just time to think about themselves, and get to know each other.

Watching over them is the resort's director, a woman on a mission. But quite a different one from any the guests might have imagined. For behind the retreat's glamorous facade lies a dark agenda.

These nine perfect strangers have no idea what's about to hit them...

** ( taken from https://www.waterstones.com/book/nine-perfect-strangers/liane-moriarty/9781405919463) 

Whew- sounds pretty incredible. I was excited to find out what the dark agenda at Tranquillum house was, who this strange director was- yes, I was well and truly drawn in by the hype and couldnt wait to read the book.

What can I say other than, 'Oh dear me!' From the start it just did not do it for me in the slightest. The nine perfect strangers , with their varying hang-ups and issues just did not ring true and as for Masha- she was so far fetched that I often had to re-read sections to check that I had actually read it correctly. I read right to to end as I kept hoping that it would grab me like every other of her stories, but instead it became more and more ridiculous. Had it been sold as a comedy ( a pretty black one at that ) it may have worked better but to be taken seriously in any shape or form seemed an impossibilty. Each time I thought - well that couldn't possibly be about to happen - it did. 

I know it's been made into an incredibly popular drama with the rather wonderful Nicole Kidman but I'm not planning to watch it. I am still a fan of Ms Moriaty and will read her next books with interest. Perhaps she was writing with her tongue firmly in her cheek and the whole thing was just two fingers to the high priced ( and perhaps not necessarily scientifically approved) centres that promise much and charge more. I suspect Covid put paid to many of those.  

So, if you are looking for utter nonsense with cliched characters, bizarre treatments and a cartoon-esque villain ( think Cruella, Maleficent- that's the type of character Masha is !) then you may well enjoy it. But if you like credible storylines with characters that you can empathise with and a plot that intrigues, this may not be the best choice.

One word to sum up- 

incredible

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The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue VE Shwab

 

READ THIS BOOK!

This fantasy novel tells  the life of Addie LaRue . Addie lives with her family and is due to marry a man she does not love. But in the 18th century a young  woman does not have a voice, or a choice. She has to follow the path chosen by her parents. In desperation she makes a pact with the devil.

 A free life is her wish- and it is granted but of course there is a price to pay. Addie LaRue becomes immortal but no one can remember her, no one can say her name. She cannot say who she is, or leave a mark. And so, the story begins.

 This book (another that I listened to) takes the reader/listener on an intricate journey through over 300 years of  artists, wars, love, loss, ecstasy and despair.   

It definitely makes my list of favourite reads. The story twists and turns as Addie learns to live in a world where no one can say her name and no one can remember her. Time and time again she is given the opportunity to surrender her soul and have peace, but she refuses to give in and strives to find ways to outwit the devil.  Addie finds that although she can not be remembered, ideas can  and this gives her the strength to continue century after century. Everything is thrown into confusion though when Henry DOES remember her. How could this happen after so many years?  

 I was gripped from the start. If you enjoyed Matt Haig's Time , this book would appeal to you.  Strong characters  and beautifully described settings. Perhaps it will be made into a film...  

Having read some scathing reviews of this book which critised the lack of diversity / missed historical opportunities, I'd just like to add that I read to be entertained. As a full time teacher , my free time is precious and for me , reading is my relaxation, my chilling time. I do like to read a variety of genres, but particularly with this book it met my need to have a story to be immersed in. For me this book is one to revisit,to tell people about because it's a fantastic story told authentically. 

Billy Summers . Stephen King

 Billy Summers is a crime novel written by American author Stephen King, published by Scribner on August 3, 2021. Wikipedia

I am a HUGE fan of Stephen King, Having scared myself reading Pan Horror stories as a 12 year old I was hooked into the horror genre and read James Herbert and Stephen King books as fast as I could get a copy from the local library.

Fortunately Stephen King does a lot more than horror and  as I have grown from a pre-teen to present day his writing style has evolved in to a broad range of styles and genres. I would not like to go so far as to say I am his number one fan as I would not like to be compared to Annie Wilkes from Misery. Indeed there are books of his that I have not read and some that I have not enjoyed. But I digress- let's get on with doing what this blog is meant to be about which is reviewing the book.

**NOTE No spoilers will be given in any reviews as I'm not a reader who flicks to the back of the book to see where it ends. I appreciate that many people do this, but for those who don't want spoilers please rest assured that you will not find any here**

Billy Summers is an assassin. An assassin with a conscience.

Now that sounds like an oxymoron. It is an oxymoron. I am the sort of reader who has to feel something for the characters in a book otherwise what's the point of the time invested. So an assassin, with a conscience. How will that work? Is it even possible?  

Billy Summers is a fast paced story that keeps you guessing right until the closing sentences. Stephen King's characters are multi dimensional and totally credible. At times Mr King can wax lyrical for pages ( even chapters ...The Stand, Under the Dome could have been A LOT shorter) but in the case of Billy Summers each word, each sentence, each chapter work together to tell a story.  The genre given is crime but that's over simplified the complexities of this work.  It is a lot more than a crime story.

I have seen reviews where the author has been accused of misogynistic opinions but I felt these were uunfounded. Some of the characters certainly had unsavoury opinions but that makes for a more realistic portrayal of a 21st century world. Some of the characters are likeable, some are not. Some are contensious, Some not. 

What was great about this work- the characters, their interactions, the journey you are taken on alongside Billy Summers. The author makes his political views known throughout the story so if you're not in agreement this book will definitely annoy you ! But I didn't mind the not-so-subtle pokes at the president of the time.

What was not great- I read this book earlier this year and there is not one thing that I could criticise There are some VERY hard parts to read where violence of a sexual nature is detailed, but it is integral to the story.

I laughed out loud, I shouted , I felt rage ( As mentioned in my previous post I mostly listen to audio books at the moment on my daily commute) I shed tears, I even dreamt about the characters. This book worked its way under my skin . For me it would sit  alongside The Green Mile, Misery, The Institute as being one of his greatest works. I'm hopeful that it would be made into a film or even a series ( as long as the story isn't changed beyond all recognition like the TV series Under the Dome) . Billy Summers tells his story through his cover story of being an author whilst he waits to be called to take action. Who better than to write about an author than a master of the craft. 

As I said at the start, I am a fan , but if you've never read a Stephen King book before make this your first one. Well written and gripping- I sat  in the car on many occasions unable to switch off and listened whilst at home and out and about as I needed to know what was coming next. Don't be put off if you're not a horror story fan- he's moved on a long way from that. If you like a book that tells a story with lots of character interaction then I'd say you would enjoy this. 

I did. It's a 10 from me.

Hello again

 Goodness it has been a LONG time since the last post - and several jobs have been and gone. 

I may, or may not write about those at some point.

In the meantime, along with my teaching I love to read and with a daily commute of 90 minutes have embraced audio books. So , this blog space will now be used to review some of the books that I have read. 

I'd love to write one of my own one day ( well I have one  in my google drive that I'm really not happy with so I will rephrase that as I would love to write a decent book of my own one day). 

The esteemed author, Stephen King, in his autobiographical book 'On Writing' repeatedly referred to his love of reading, and the copious amount that he has and still does as one of his biggest influences that I dream that my love of reading may perhaps help me to become a better writer.

In the meantime thus begins my reviews. Thanks for reading!

Holiday Science Fun

Am planning to try this out with my niece and nephews. ( 5,7,9)

I bought these tiny rainbow beads online - (you can also use the silica beads that come with trainers ) a couple of pounds for thousands of them.

All you need to do is pop them into a container of water

These have been in for a couple of hours.

Simple activities can include counting , how many different colours, holding the container up to the light.

Pop a hand in:

How many am I holding? Two?

Fabulous! The clear beads are so difficult to see when in the water. Lots of fun to try to guess how many there are and then take out one by one.

Further activities can include timing how long they take to grow, if different colours take more or less time. Can also see how long they take to return to normal size.

How about trying a salt solution? Or pop some food colouring in.

Lots of potential for measuring , weighing and if you have a torch handy see how the light is refracted by the spheres. See what happens if you hold one above some writing.

If you've tried this, let me know how it goes.

**Important** don't throw these down the drain when finished with..they can be dried and reused over and over . If they must be thrown away they'll need to go in the general household waste.

Have fun!